Letting Go of Perfect - The Course
An eight-week live online programme for gay and bi men ready to step out of control-driven living and build a steadier relationship with their body and themselves.
Next cohort begins Sunday 26 April 2026 6:00pm–7:30pm (UK time)
What This Programme Is
Letting Go of Perfect is an eight-week live online programme built around the framework behind my book, adapted into a structured group format.
It examines body image and control not as surface issues, but as patterns shaped by minority stress, identity, performance culture and nervous system adaptation.
Across eight weeks, we work through the psychological, behavioural and physiological drivers of self-surveillance, urgency and optimisation.
This is not a fitness plan and it is not therapy. It is a contained process for those who want a more grounded and less reactive relationship with their body and internal world.
Only 12 Places Available! Early Bird Pricing Until 31st March 2026.
Only 12 Places Available! Early Bird Pricing Until 31st March 2026.
Who It’s For
This programme is suitable if:
You feel caught in cycles of bulking, cutting, restarting or comparing
You understand your patterns intellectually but find yourself pulled back into them.
You want something structured and psychologically grounded, rooted in the lived experience of being a gay or bi man.
You’re interested in mindset, identity and nutrition, and want to explore them in a way that feels integrated rather than prescriptive.
You’re tired of trying to “fix” yourself through more discipline
You want to feel calmer inside your own skin
You’re willing to engage honestly in a small, contained group setting.
What Changes By Week 8
By the end of eight weeks, you will relate to yourself differently.
You’ll understand the deeper drivers behind your urgency, control and self-criticism.
You’ll have practical regulation tools to steady spirals before they escalate.
You’ll think more clearly about food, training & comparison.
You’ll notice negative thought patterns earlier and recover from them more quickly.
You’ll leave with a framework you can apply in real life contexts long after the programme ends.
Self-trust will feel more accessible.
The 8-Week Structure
This programme brings together years of lived experience, academic training and professional practice into one contained structure.
Beyond The SurfaceWe ground the group and look carefully at what body dysmorphia actually is, how it shows up in gay culture, the psychological toll it takes, and why recovery means more than simply trying to feel better about your reflection.
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Nutrition & RegulationWe look at the physiological foundations that influence mood, control and obsession, building steadiness through nourishment rather than restriction or performance.
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Trauma & AdaptationWe explore body image as the shadow of unresolved trauma, examining how rejection, shame and minority stress manifest in the body and nervous system, why we bury pain rather than feel it, and how calming the nervous system becomes part of rebuilding rather than just coping.
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Mindset PatternsWe identify the internal rules, perfectionism and self-surveillance that drive your behaviour, learning how to question them without replacing them with a new set of rigid standards.
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Authenticity and IdentityWe explore the gap between who you are and who you learned to be in order to survive, questioning performance, approval-seeking and image management, and beginning the process of living more honestly.
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Mindful Movement & Supportive Environments06
We re-examine your relationship with movement and gym culture, while also looking at how your wider environment either reinforces comparison or supports healing.
Silence and Self-RelationshipWe explore stillness not as escape but as reconnection, examining meditation, solitude and the role of sobriety in clearing noise, and how learning to sit with yourself changes the way you relate to control, distraction and identity.
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Integration and Moving ForwardWe consolidate the work into a grounded framework so that when old patterns resurface, you meet them with awareness, steadiness and perspective.
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Each session ends with an optional guided regulation practice. Some weeks, this includes conscious, connected breathing.
How It Works
The programme is delivered live and is intentionally kept small to allow depth and honest discussion. The group is confidential and structured to remain respectful, contained and psychologically safe.
– Weekly live session (Sundays, 7:00pm–8:30pm UK)
– Small cohort (maximum 12 participants)
– Optional guided regulation practice to close each session
– Private WhatsApp group
– Structured reflection prompts between sessions
Investment & Commitment
Spring 2026 Cohort: Begins Sunday 26 April 2026
Weekly on Sundays, 6:00pm–7:30pm (UK)
Investment: £995 (£895 early bird until 31st March)
This includes eight live sessions, structured reflection prompts, and access to a small, confidential group.
Payment confirms your place.
The cohort is limited to maintain depth and quality of discussion.
If, after the initial intake conversation, it becomes clear the programme is not the right fit, you will receive a full refund.
Early Bird Pricing Until 31st March 2026 - £895
Frequently Asked Questions
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No. Psychological patterns are explored, but this is not a therapy replacement.
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Yes, in a strategic and behavioural context, not through prescriptive plans.
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No. Regulation practices are optional and clearly guided.
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Sessions are recorded and made available to participants if there is an unavoidable scheduling conflict. Live attendance is strongly encouraged due to the relational nature of the work.
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Payment confirms your place. You will then be sent an intake questionnaire so I can get to know you and I will reach out to you if there is any further information required.
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You will get the most from the programme if you are willing to engage honestly, reflect between sessions and show up consistently.
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Body image is often the entry point, but we explore identity, control, nervous system regulation, relationships and the wider cultural pressures shaping your experience.
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Yes, you can opt to pay in 2 instalments.
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You will leave with a framework you can continue applying independently. Future cohorts and advanced work may be offered, but there is no obligation to continue.